Various Facebook posts

May 10, 2012
Who speaks for the voiceless? Who moves for the immobile? It only takes one person who doesn't care or thinks it's not their job to create a miserable experience for others. Neglect is so easy. I will be my son's voice, his legs and his shoulders as long as I am able. God help you if you get in my way.

May 16, 1012
Graduation is on my mind. Malry just got his first card/gift in the mail and I'm having some mixed emotions. Proud is one of them. Sadness is another strong one. This is when young adults start to gain their independence. Not our Malry. He will be staying with us. He will stay with us as long as we shall live. It's the milestones that trample on your soul the most and leave the darkest bruises.

May 25, 2012
How many times have I rolled my older son out to the school bus over the past twelve years? I'm not certain, but I know the number will stop increasing now. I just took him to the yellow limousine one last time. The weight of that did not hit me until I was half way to the bus. A huge part of Heather's and my daily routine has just taken a turn. Maybe fear and uncertainty are the roots of our emotions. Maybe it's the painful reminder of what Malry could have been and where he could have been headed after high school. Maybe we are just pitiful emotional saps. Maybe it's a little of all of these. I know one thing. Today is not going to be easy. For those of you who will be with us today and tonight...please forgive us. We will not be ourselves. Lord give us Strength.

November 24, 2011
Today and every day of my life, whether I say/show it or not, I am thankful for the roles I fill:
Husband to a wonderful, caring, beautiful and genuine woman. Heather, you are the Yin to my Yang. You fill in my blanks. You are my strength when I need it and the object of my love for life.

Father to the best sons a dad could ask for. Malry, You have been a complicated joy your whole life and you challenge me every day to be a better person and father. You have taught me the roots of fatherhood, what is truly important. Greggory, you have shown me that maybe what I have learned from being Malry's father can be passed on to you. You have a heart and compassion beyond words. You make me proud every day. I am hard on you sometimes but everything I do, I do to ensure you will grow up to be a good person, a good husband and a good father. I hope you know this.

Son to two of the best people I know. You taught me, by example, the fundamentals in life.

Friend to some of some pretty exceptional people. Thanks for being my friends, even when it wasn't easy.

This got a little longer than I had intended.
Happy Thanksgiving!

November 9, 2011

I had to explain to Greggory last night, why Heather and I were so emotional and short tempered lately. First, I had to explain what a milestone is. Then I explained to him that when Malry reaches certain milestones it is bitter-sweet for us. We are proud of what he has accomplished. But, we are also very sad because Malry doesn't have the same future as other boys his age. I explained that when these milestone times come around we are reminded of what could have been and what the reality is; that Malry does not move on like others do. When I was done explaining it to him I was in tears. I looked at him and he was in tears too. This boy loves his brother and I love them both, so much. I'm the luckiest Dad ever.


September 20, 2011

We are finishing up Malry's Dr's appointment and the Dr. gives us a prescription and another paper. The other paper says "FU as needed". I was a little offended and curious until it dawned on me that meant Follow Up as needed. The nurses were amused and said I was the first person to ever mention that it could be interpreted any other way. Imagine that